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November 6, 2011 was Pay it Forward Day, in memory of Dale Settle, Jr. Dale would have been 23 years old on this day and his family created this event to honor him on his birthday. Over 1500 people participated and below are some of the stories that were shared after participants did a random act of kindness. . Also many people continue to share their experiences with ongoing random acts of kindness. Those will all be listed here. If you would like to share your story, please post it on the message board or email it and it will get posted to this page within 24 hours.

November 6, 2011 - "I just want

to thank everyone who helped make "Pay it Forward in Memory of Dale Settle Jr"such a success. Some of Dale's closest family and friends helped prepare and deliver bags of groceries to about 300 houses. All of those who received the groceries were so thankful and touched by my brothers story. It was such a positive experience and I think so many got to experience the feeling that "it's better to give then to receive."
-Jackie Braccio, Dale's sister

November 6, 2011 -" I cant say enough how great this felt to do good for others. Theres no better feeling. Hope everyone had a great experience Paying It Forward!"
-Andrea Kinkela
November 6, 2011 - "When I orginally had this idea for a Pay it Forward Day, I never imagined it would grow as big as it did. Jackie had the idea to do our pay it forward in the neighborhood where Dale was killed in Canton, OH. We organized a food drive and collected over 300 bags of groceries that we distributed to over 300 families in that neighborhood. We stapled fliers to the bags so that they could learn about what happened to Dale and what kind of person he was. The look on those people's faces and all of the hugs that were received that day is an experience I will never forget. Some of those people may not have had a Thanksgiving dinner if we didn't give them the groceries and turkey vouchers. They were truly grateful and it felt really good to pay it forward."
-Lisa Mariani, Dale's aunt
November 6, 2011 - "Just a small sample of how I have decided to Pay it Foward. This is Trevor, 20 months old. His Mommy was in a terrible car accident leaving her with a traumatic brain injury, among many other injuries. Trevor has been staying with family, and they didn't have a carseat, clothes ect to help care for him.. Trevor is wearing one of the outfits out of the large bin of clothing we gave to them, along with some toys, a carseat, a winter jacket, snow suit, hat and gloves, and multiple other things! Praying for Julie's recovery, And for her entire family.. and especially sweet little Trevor, as he misses his Mommy. :)

We've also given Carseats, baby blankets, stroller, botles and baby toys to a couple who have just taken custody of their 1 week old grandaughter.. This was not planned, so they were starting out with nothing to care for her as well. We packed an SUV full of baby items and sent them over to that family!!!
We took some food down to the local food bank as well! :)
-Dana Werner, Dale's cousin

November 6, 2011 - "I helped out my grandparents for a while today cleaned out their house and basement since they moved. After that, we celebrated Melissa's birthday (which was a week ago) and Dale's by going to Outback Steakhouse. When we had a cake for her afterwards, we also sang happy birthday to Dale!"
- Frank Sabo, Dale's cousin

November 6, 2011 - "We were visiting our daughter in St. Louis the weekend of Pay It Forward.We went to lunch on Nov. 6th at a popular b-q restaurant right in downtown St. Louis. There was a college age couple (right around Dale's age)behind us in line. We handed them the flier and some money to buy their meal. As I told them his story, the young woman had tears in her eyes.It turns out, that the young man had relatives not too far from where we live in PA. I was happy to spread his story there in Missouri. The young couple was truly touched by it."
-Doreen and Brad Haldeman, Dale's aunt and uncle
November 6, 2011 - As much as I would have loved to be a part of the group in Ohio, my friend, Susan McCarter organized an event here in PA. She made arrangements with Christ's Home for Children to do a day of service for them. About 20 volunteers from Susan's church, Gateway Church in Parkesburg, PA, along with Susan and myself spent the day raking and bagging leaves on their 11 (?) acre land. I was amazed that so many of these people were willing to give up their day for this cause. None of them knew me or Dale. They were inspired by his story, thanks to Susan McCarter.
-Laurie Cook, Dale's aunt
February 14, 2012 - One of my most touching "Pay It Forwards" so far has been on Valentine's Day. I stopped at Dunkin Donuts on my way to work. I knew going in there that I was going to purchase a gift card to give to the person next in line.

The cashier had trouble getting the card to load. I could feel the line getting longer and almost told her nevermind. Then as a gentleman walked to the register next to me the gift card finally loaded.

I handed the card with a flyer to the man next to me. He asked how I knew Dale. I said "his Mom is one of my best friends/co-worker." He said that he was one of Dales baseball coaches.

I walked out of there with tears in my eyes thanking God that the card went through when it did. I drove to work crying.

I believe that Dale was up in Heaven saying "not now, not now, okay NOW." as his coached walked to the register.
-Cindy Cramer, friend of Dale's mom
February 21, 2012 - While having lunch one day with Dale's Mom and another friend at Bob Evan's the waitress accidently gave us somebody else's bill. Our first instinct was this isn't our bill. It was weird, we all three thought of the same thing at the same time. We gave the waitress one of the "Pay It Forward" flyers and asked her to give it to the customer whose bill we had in our hand. In turn, we paid for their bill.

We could tell that they were so touched by it as they were reading the flyer.
-Cindy Cramer, friend of Dale's mom
February 29, 2012 - I heard of Dale's story because Wendy and Mark in California are two of my dearest friends, and they are cousins with Sharon's family. I am also facebook friends with Sharon.

I am truly inspired by your Pay it Forward Movement.

When I was in California in 2010, I met the roommate of a friend who used to live in my area on the east coast. Around here we have a company called Tastykakes ... which makes really good cupcakes and krimpets and pies. Anyone who used to live in the Philadelphia area misses them dearly when they move away.

Earlier this week, the tastykakes caught my eye in the market and I remembered about this kid in California from over a year ago who said he missed them. So I bought several boxes, got his address through a friend and just mailed him a box with a note that says "Pay it Forward" with Dale's website address.

May the world be a better place in Dale's honor.

February 29, 2012 -I was so touched by Dale's story & wanted to post a note here. My thoughts & prayers will continue for his loved ones & for this amazing project. I also wanted to share my Pay it Forward story: After losing six family members within six months including my parents who adopted & raised me while also having two broken arms at same time all in 2008, I have been volunteer-teaching Grief Recovery & crocheting (began as physical therapy) since 2009. I have set up a Crochet4Cause fundraiser campaign where 100 items will be donated to each to 16 causes over 16 months (more items,more causes,more months may be added to this as well later on); if you'd like to help in any way with this project; will you either mail stamps &/or yarn to Crochet4Cause, Po Box 48508, Ft Worth TX 76148 (or) donate online to fundraiser by searching for "Crochet4Cause" @ www.youcaring.com & last, but not least, whether you make donation or not, will you email "Notes of Encouragement" for someone going thru a difficult time to read? Your note will be delivered to a recipient along with a crocheted donated item. THANKS for all you all do!
-Chelle, Texas

March 1, 2012 - I would like to start by saying this is all amazing! Dale is so happy up there because of everything, I know he's all for something like this, it's also very nice to see some of the "Pay it forwards" no matter how big or small they maybe. I think it's great that Dale's dream of a better world and helping people is living on because I believe as well something like this is what the world needs. And I would also like to share a "pay it forward" story as well so people can see even the smallest thing can really help. It was the day of Dale's birthday so I took the liberty of ask my boss if I could bring in some papers about pay it forward because she knew about it and thought it was a great idea, so of course she aloud me, I only had about ten copy's, and all through the day no one took any, then towards the end of the night a mom and her little boy came into the store, they traded in games to get a new one her son wanted that just came out, after it was all said and done they were short 15 dollars, and the mom told her son she didn't have the money for it, the kid being maybe 9-10 started to cry, so I reached into my pocket and pull out 15 dollars put in the register and handed them the game and told them to have a great day and pay it forward, she looked at me confused and said " I don't understand" then I handed her one of the ten fliers and told her " Hear read this it will explain everything and remember pay it forward, and god bless" so as the bad ended I only handed one flier out and didn't help as much as I would have liked to, but after I seen the smile on that little boys face pay it forward made a whole lot more sense to me.
-David Settle Jr, Dale's cousin

March 5, 2012 - This is not a monetary pay it forward, but just one of thoughtfulness and caring. Ashley, Dale's cousin, told me at work sometimes when she has time, she writes inspirational little notes and sticks them in random people's bags with their receipts. The other day she said she wrote "everything will be ok" (and I believe there was something more, but can't remember..maybe "smile" or something like that) and put it in a lady's bag. The lady was waiting for her son and happened to see the note. She thanked Ashley, with tears in her eyes. It's true, how just a note of hope, encouragement, love, etc. may make all the difference to someone. I'm proud of my daughter for being so thoughtful and caring, and for doing this in her cousin's memory.
-Laurie Cook, Dale's aunt
March 5, 2012 - "A generous man will himself be blessed, for he shares his food with the poor."

Recently I started a food sharing program at my church. My friend recommended a FREE scheduling program called www.FoodTidings.com. The Food Tidings scheduler is perfect for people who want to help those in need that sincerely appreciate a little extra love through food sharing. Food Tidings simplifies the process of organizing meals for friends or family members in a transitional time of life. For someone who has just had a baby, recovering from surgery or injury, grieving the passing of a loved one, confined to bed rest, having a hard time keeping up and almost anything else, receiving dinners from loved ones can be very comforting and incredibly helpful.

I think that people with good hearts who want to help often find themselves overwhelmed with the coordination process. Facing a difficult task, they put it off and it quickly becomes too late and the moment to help in time of need is passed. Now the person who would benefit greatly from receiving the meals has miss out. It is a worth while cause, but this scheduler is designed to help eliminate some of the time and confusion in coordinating a meal schedule. With a simple process we are likely to have more people cooking and we will be able to assist many more! This website is a dream come true! It's only been officially up and running for a couple weeks and we have 30 amateur chefs (and counting) and we've helped 5 families.

Make this your new pay it forward program. It's not just a one time generosity, it's on going and you keep others involved on a regular basis. Watch your amateur chef contacts grow and grow!

Thank you D.A.L.E Foundation for setting such a positive example! Keep it up!
-Lacey Markowski, Arizona
March 5, 2012 - Food Tidings We are so touched by Dale's story. We've gone through this wonderful website set up in his honor, and knowing that others will be paying it forward now as a result of hearing his story is amazing. God really has and continues to use him in BIG ways! We know Dale is dearly missed, and our hearts go out to his family. The poems his mom have written are incredibly beautiful. Thank you for sharing about the D.A.L.E. Foundation with us! We at Food Tidings are with you in the mission of paying it forward. We look forward to sharing about the foundation with our community.

Kind Regards,
Lisa Shepherd, Co-Founder of Food Tidings
March 6, 2012 - This morning I was getting coffee at Wawa. I bought a $5 gift card and when I was done paying, I turned and handed to the lady behind me. I told her "here you go, there's $5 on this you can use" She smiled and said "thank you!" I said "you're welcome. I'm just paying it forward. Here is a story behind it" and handed her the flier. I saw her start reading it before I left. It feels good to make someone else happy.
-Amanda Cook, Dale's cousin


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